Self-spanking is an option for people who want to experience the feeling of getting spanked, but have no partner to spank them. The motivation for self-spanking is primarily the same as for any spankee:
- erotic spanking - self-spanking for the erotic experience, often combined with masturbation
- disciplinary spanking - self-spanking as a form of self-punishment
- therapeutic spanking - self-spanking as a form of self-therapy
- sensual spanking - self-spanking for the physical sensations.
Many spankophiles experiment with self-spanking as teenagers, or if they lack a disciplinarian to spank them. While many people find self-spanking less fulfilling than getting spanked by another person, for psychological and technical reasons, some spankophiles enjoy self-spanking in addition to being spanked by someone else, and incorporate both into their lifestyle.
It requires greater-than-average self-discipline to follow through a self-spanking. It is naturally tempting to stop as soon as it begins to really hurt. Besides, the person will normally not experience the same feeling of passiveness and helplessness that comes with getting spanked. Overcoming these issues, however, allows for one of the advantages of self-spanking: the ability to tailor the severity of a spanking precisely to one's desires or needs.
Self-spanking is greatly enhanced with a strong imagination, if the person can place his or herself in both roles of a spanking. Part of one's mind is the spanker who is stern and follows through the spanking no matter what. The other part of one's mind is the spankee who suffers and wishes (in vain) that the spanking would end. Both roles coexist in the same mind.
Self-spanking can be technically difficult. Hand-spanking can be difficult, as it can require many, quickly-delivered spanks to make the spanking suitably painful.
Implements can be a solution to this issue. However, self-spanking with implements takes practice to be safe and effective, as the motion required can feel awkward and the person has to spank more or less without any vision of the target area. One can try to twist one's torso to catch a glance while spanking, or use a mirror, or even two mirrors.
A spanking machine is another possibility for self-spanking.
A possible alternative to enjoy the passive side of spanking without a (human) partner could be a spanking machine. In practice, however, those machines exist but are not common as they can be expensive and may also not match the buyer's expectations.
A theoretical alternative to enjoy the active side of spanking without a (human) partner would be a spanking doll, i.e. a doll that is built to be spanked and to show typical spankee reactions. Such dolls are described in spanking fiction (e.g. Melody's Stories). Simple spanking dolls have been produced as toys for children, but it is unsure if there are any spanking dolls that would meet an adult spanker's needs.
Some are not so much after the feeling of the impact of a spank, but the "after glow" after the spanking is over. One way to achieve this is with sandpaper. But this takes a minute or so to kick in, so be carefully in how much you rub, else you may emulate the aftereffect of a more severe spanking than wanted.
Self-spanking to test an implement
Giving oneself a few spanks is also a popular method to test a new implement, e.g. in a BDSM toy shop or at a spanking party. Makers of fetish films sometimes test implements on themselves to get an idea as to how much their models can endure in a proposed scene. The test spanks can be given e.g. on one's bottom, thigh, palm, or forearm.
Some people also use self-spanking as a substitute or supplement to spanking encounters with their disciplinarians.
Films and television
- The Wicker Man (1973) — Horror yarn with a nude Britt Ekland performing a seductive song and dance and hand smacking herself several times. (In an interview Ekland revealed that her father punished her severely with a carpet beater until she was eighteen years old.) Near the end, during a pagan ritual parade, several young women playfully swat each other with yardstick-like strips of wood (seen briefly in the trailer).
- Secretary (film) (2002) — Maggie Gyllenhaal plays the titular character, a timid masochist. In one scene she whacks herself with a hairbrush but immediately gives up, disappointed with the effect. The scene implies that she must have a dominant partner in order to arouse her feelings.
- Scrubs ("My First Step,", 2:7, 2002) — Television sitcom with guest star Heather Locklear seducing Dr. Cox (John C. McGinley) by telling him: "We both know you'd love nothing more than to smack this fine ass". She then gives herself five hard slaps with her hand while groaning and adds: "Don't stop, Perry. Harder!" as she walks away. Later in a restaurant she repeats this performance in front of Dr. Cox.
- House of 1000 Corpses (2003) — Rob Zombie-directed horror film includes a ghoulish serial killer museum with an animated mannequin demonstrating how one perverted killer liked to paddle himself with a board studded with nails.
- Dinner for Schmucks (2010) — A woman tries to get a clueless Steve Carell to discipline her (see video clip below).
- Mrs. Fletcher (HBO, 2019-) — Cable comedy series about single mother Eve Fletcher (Kathryn Hahn) exploring sexual fantasies, including internet porn and erotic spanking. The trailer for the series shows her (comically) experimenting with self-spanking (trailer).
- Apricot Pitt's Self Spanking (Triple A Spanking)
- Ash's Christmas Present (8 min.) self-spanking video that can be seen on SpankingTube.
- Be Careful What You Wish For (Swedish Discipline, 2021), photos
- Brandi's Self Spanking (Spanking Teen Brandi), photos
- Candle Boxxx Self-Spanking (POVspanking.com), photos
- Cute School Girl Lola Strips While Playing With Headmistress's Leather Strap (St Mackenzie's), photos
- Harley's Self Spanking For Attitude (Delco Video Productions), Harley Havik, forced self-spanking punishment, photos
- Housewife Meg Doing it Herself (Red Stripe Films, 2020)
- I Will Paddle Myself (English Spankers), photos
- Inside Kailee's Room, Part 1 (RealSpankings.com, 2008), Kailee, video at Xvideos
- Inside Kailee's Room, Part 2 (RealSpankings.com, 2008), photos
- Lily Spanks Herself Hard (Triple A Spanking, 2021), Lily Swan
- Merry Christmas From Shira! - short self-spanking video posted on SpankingTube.
- Private Session with Miss J (Spanking Teen Jessica), photos
- Self-spanking Under Pandemic (Hand-Spanking.com, Japan, 2020), COVID-19 in spanking art and videos, photos
- 600+ Spanks Compilation (AlexaCrush), photos
- Slave Training Part 1 (Captive Chrissy Marie), photos
- Spanking & Masturbation (Spanking Teen Brandi, 2017), Brandi, photo
- Spanking, Spanking, and More (B&D Pleasures, 1990) — Kiri Kelly hand-spanks herself while reading an erotic novel. She is soon discovered by Tanya Foxx. The two girls then discipline each other in an extented F/F sequence.
- Stevie's Webcam Self-Spanking (Disciplinary Arts)
Martin Hale-Hoffman, a masochistic exhibitionist, spanking his own butt.