A punishment agreement is an agreement in writing, possibly but not necessarily taking the form of a contract, that defines certain punishments that will be given for certain offenses. Punishments agreements are used in BDSM (e.g. domestic discipline, host/houseboy, host/housegirl) relationships as a document that ensures that both parties have a common understanding on the terms of the relationship, and the nature, extent and limits of possible punishments that will, or may, be given.
Simple example, just to convey the idea:
- Poor work — six of the best plus an extra chore
- Lying or rude language — mouth soaping followed by a bare-bottom hand-spanking
- Stealing — bare-bottom hand-spanking followed by a paddling, plus a removal of privilege
- Food related offense — no dessert or bed without supper
- Lacking cleanliness or hygiene — a good scrubbing with soap and cold water, followed by a hand-spanking on the wet bottom
- Vandalism — humiliation, spanking plus corner time
Punishment agreements can run for a specified period (e.g. a trial period of a week or a month), or indefinitely. If one of the parties finds that the agreement should be changed, e.g. made stricter or milder, or to add new offenses, this can be done anytime upon mutual agreement.
Children are usually subjected to rules and consequences for breaking these without being given much of a chance to negotiate these terms with the authority figure. Typically only in formal, non-domestic scenarios such as schools, boarding schools, reformatories, training camps, boot camps etc. will the punishments be put down in a formal document. An exception is the If-Then Chart, which is more or less a document of such a kind too, but for use in semi-domestic scenarios such as kindergartens, preschools and home-schooling families.