Limit

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A limit is a restriction; a bound beyond which one may not go. The verb to limit means to restrict; not to allow to go beyond a certain bound.

Limits in parenting[edit]

In parenting, limits refer to things a child is not allowed to do. Parents and other people who are in charge are expected to set limits for their children's behavior. These limits may be adapted as the child grows older. A child may "test their limits" to find out how far they can actually go without being punished.

See also rule, discipline, offense, consequence and If-Then Chart.

Limits in BDSM[edit]

In BDSM and consensual spanking, a limit is something a player is not willing to do. This applies both to tops and bottoms.

It is common before a BDSM scene to discuss what will, may, and what will not happen during the play. At this time, the players will outline what they'd like to do and and what they will not tolerate. Usually the limits are communicated verbally, but in the case of a public profile on a web forum or personals site, in an e-mail or chat exchange between potential players, or in the case of a written punishment agreement or contract, limits may also be expressed in writing.

Examples of limits in BDSM may be:

See also edgeplay.

Types of limits[edit]

A player may define hard limits (something they will never do), and soft limits (something they will do only in special circumstances). They may also define a "must" limit (something they have to have) or a time limit (to define a maximum duration of the session).

If a submissive player says he or she has no limits, it means they allow the dominant to do anything he or she likes. Wipipedia says, "This is usually a sign of an inexperienced player who does not yet know what their limits are and can be very dangerous. In reality, even the most hardened and experienced players have limits (consider being thrown under a train, for fun). 'No limits' play is more the stuff of porn and thriller movies than in actual, real-life BDSM scenes. When in a long-term relationship with a known and fully-trusted partner, it can be safe to rely on your knowledge of the partner to keep to safe limits; this is also sometimes used as a term for TPE or Total Power Exchange. It can be said that there are two possible problems with claiming you're a no-limits submissive: 1) You won't be taken seriously, or 2) You will."

Pain limits[edit]

A person's pain limit is the amount of pain he or she is willing to bear. A spankee may have a higher or lower pain limit, and the individual pain limit may also vary on different days. When their pain limit is approached, the spankee may signal this (e.g. via a safeword). Some spankees also try to go consciously to and beyond their pain limit to see whether this will lead to "breaking down" reactions they don't experience otherwise, such as crying.

Age limits[edit]

An age limit is a specific age beyond (either above or below) something is not to be done. For example, there may be an upper age limit to being subject to spanking as a form of punishment, or there may be a lower age limit for consensual sexual activities (the age of consent).

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