BDSM is an abbreviation that stands for:
The majority of BDSM practitioners emphasize the principle "safe, sane and consensual" (SSC). BDSM activities are practiced by men and women of all sexualities. All pairings (F/F, F/M, M/F, M/M) are common. In practice most people prefer playing with a partner of the gender they find sexually attractive. Heterosexual women prefer to play with men (and vice versa), gay men play with other men, lesbian women with other women. However one can also enjoy BDSM play with a person who is clearly outside one's normal sexual interests, especially in mere play partnerships.
BDSM play can, but does not need to include (or end with) sex.
BDSM play in general requires that the partners assume two unequal roles, so that there can be a power exchange. Depending on the nature of the play, these roles are often dominant and submissive, or Master/Mistress and slave, but in general they are called top and bottom. The terms top and bottom are most general, they cover all types of roles and all kinds of BDSM play.
The BDSM and the spanking subculture
A lot of people see erotic spanking, spankophilia and spanking fetishism as subsets within the BDSM cosmos. Others feel that although there is no doubt much overlap between the "spanko" and the BDSM subculture, there are also some typical differences.
An interest in BDSM often comes combined with other paraphilia such as leather or latex fetishism. On BDSM parties, wearing black fetish clothing is almost obligatory. In contrast, spanko parties tend to have a less strict dresscode and often encourage non-black outfits such as dressing up like a schoolgirl. While typical BDSM adherents favor master/slave and similar roleplaying, many spankos find ageplay more appropriate for spanking scenes, such as parent/child or teacher/student.
This list does not include toys that are also commonly used for spanking (see spanking implements for a list of these).
- Butt plug
- Chastity belt
- Dildo (etc.)
- Needles (for needle play)
- Nipple clamps
- Spiked gloves
- Spreader bar
- Strap-on dildo
- Suspension cuffs
- Testicle cuff
- Violet wand
- Wartenberg wheel
- Candles (for wax play)
Illustration from a Marquis de Sade novel (1789).
Submissive woman wearing a BDSM collar.
A studded metal slave outfit by Charles Guyette (c. 1930s).
Illustration by John Willie.
Slave in wood and metal pillory.
- BDSM art
- BDSM stories
- Bondage art
- Doggie training
- Pony play
- Impact play
- List of BDSM organizations on Wikipedia
- List of BDSM topics on Wikipedia
- BDSM on Wipipedia
- Abbreviations on Wipipedia (List of BDSM terms)
- Category:BDSM on Wipipedia
- Bizarre Magazine
- Wipipedia, the free Fetish and BDSM encyclopedia
- Large free BDSM Tutorial and guide resource (in German, )
- Articles, thoughts, and essays on the bdsm (in Spanish, )
- SMPlace.com - BDSM Forum
- Wasteland (aka BDSMfinder.com), large producer of BDSM videos.